In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “It’s a Text, Text, Text, Text World.”
I am one of those people who prefers to communicate via text, email, or messenger, than face-to-face. Being in a face-to-face conversation with someone makes my social anxiety start to kick in. Now, I can send mass emails out every day to 50+ people, like I do with my prayer reminders and it doesn’t bother me, because I am not face-to-face with those people. But being in an in person conversation with someone gets me started stuttering really bad. That’s only something I do when I am anxious. It doesn’t take much for my social anxiety to kick in- just a typical family get together does it for me. I am lucky that my parents (who typically host those get togethers) understand and always have a quiet room I can escape to if I need to decompress and get myself together a bit so that I can go back out and suffer through the rest of the event. You probably think I’m kidding when I say “suffer”, but I’m not. For me it is suffering. I would rather have a root canal than go to a gathering of people.
That being said, in a written way, I have found that I have to be very deliberate about what I say, so that I can convey the correct emotions, and my intent with what I am saying. I can’t say something like, “God, I’m so angry I could kill them in their sleep”, and expect the person I am sending that written message to, to understand that I am not serious about that. I also have learned to be very clear in my meaning of things because, the person I am sending it to may understand that I am just joking or speaking out of frustration (an understand just what a sarcastic asshole I am), but anyone who happens to look through that person’s phone, on their Facebook wall, or their DM’s on Twitter, may not have the same understanding of what I am saying that the person I sent the message to does. When someone doesn’t understand the intent of the written message, whether it is be because they don’t know me or they take everything as literal, that is when problems can occur. So I always make sure to say that I am just joking, or that I would never actually do that and am just venting from frustration.